I was watching a film over the weekend and the main character’s sister became obsessed with her dry front yard. Every day as she pulled up in the car her heart would sink because of this yard. She would often snap at her husband yelling ‘have you seen the yard? It’s dry, why don’t you ever water the yard?’ He had the answer, it was winter everyone’s yard looked dry or dead in the winter time. She mused on this and in the spring she asked the same question. This time it wasn’t winter and the grass in the yard looked dead. If you want the grass watered why don’t you do it yourself ? !!!!! Not quite the answer she was looking to hear, but if you get where this is going he was absolutely right.
You see in this life we are the keeper of your own ‘grass’, your heart, your soul, your being. It is our responsibility to feed our grass in a special way and pay attention to what makes us happy in this life.
We should, in fact we MUST be the custodian of our very own happiness. We must do the things that fill our souls with joy, bring out the inner child and make us smile broadly and laugh out loud just because.
Each and every day we must treat ourselves as if our lives are golden. We must find and understand the value and purpose for our lives. We often complain about the rain but without rain nothing would grow. Without the rain there would be no fertile soil. We often need a good old soak and wash, water cleanses so many things. Having compassion and appreciation for our selves is paramount in this life.
Know how to support you. Your values, your self worth, your self esteem, your integrity. Give yourself a big old hug often, make it tight and heart filled. If we understand this premise and give ourselves the best, it teaches other’s how to treat you too.
The moral of the story …. at the ending of the film my girl took to watering her yard each and everyday. She had no idea that something as simple as watching water flow, hearing the sound, feeling the cold drips upon her skin could be so refreshing and give so much pleasure. In no time at all, the grass grew lush, green and pretty. It made her smile, it lifted her spirts. She quickly realised that sometimes you literally have to take things into your own hands. Make a decision and take action. It’s not up to others, like your partner to make you happy. They can enhance your happiness, they can add to your happiness, they can bring out what you already have however, they are not solely responsible for your entire happiness. And to be honest it’s a great big ask of someone in the first place and secondly then to hold them accountable for our happiness especially when we don’t ourselves know what happiness looks like for us.
So know what makes you tick, know what makes you truly happy and get a little of it on the regular.
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