This morning I’m thinking about the things we have that we can give for free.
Doesn’t cost us a thing but to someone else it’s priceless.
Happy Sunday peeps make it count ❤️
Cheaper than chips!
Managing the in between
Inspired this morning by a video that my cousin Elaine shared in the cousins family chat. (Thanks cuz) 🥰🥰
The video shared some words from Steve Jobs as his life was ending. It was reminding us that we are loved when we are born and when we die, the in between we have to manage.
Got me thinking, Who do I love? Who loves me? And how do I know that they love me? What’s my love language? How am I managing the in between? It’s a bit deep for a Sunday morning but gotta examine and sit with the question a little while.
As I reflect I know who I love, that was very easy. The who loves me … easy. The how do I know …. a deeper level of inner inspection required. 🤔🤔🤔
There is truly some deep wide love in my life (I am exceptionally blessed in this area). There are those that look out for me and have my back for sure. They show me kindness, love, tenderness and compassion. They are interested in what I am doing, how I am feeling and doing and when I royally f@&% the hell up they cover me with grace. When I’m sick they are prepared to wipe my derriere if they have to, feed me and comfort me. Words fail me sometimes. They give, show and provide additional happiness to my life across the piece as well as heaps of laughter, especially about rubbish. 😂🤣
The good ones are there for me, I only have to ask. Sometimes I don’t even need to ask. They tell me as it is in love. Not putting me down so they can feel tall. And not in a way that leaves me crushed so I can’t recover or it takes a long while to recover.
Not the fair weather kind. With me in the good times and don’t disappear in times of distress and need. If you have a couple of these people in your life, drop to your knees in thanksgiving and gratitude. These people are priceless.
My mum taught me from early door to treasure my relationships and friendships because ‘Jan-et! It’s a two way street. The new friends are silver and the old ones are golden. And never give away the old ones for the new ones’. Wise words indeed which I’ve never forgotten.
Equally she told me and showed me that I needed to be a friend. To show myself friendly, be prepared to be in it for the long haul, (unless something happens and for very good reasons you call it a day, and it has happened to me on one occasion). To never gossip about a friend with another friend in a malicious and destructive way. When you love someone you do your best for them always.
Question to you today – How are you managing the in between?? Who do you love and who loves you? Who do you look out for?
As you think about it connect with your heart and feel the joy and sensation in your body. Stop right there … doesn’t it feel good to love and know that someone loves you back. Each one a blessing. 🤗🤗🤗After the exercise, if you haven’t told them for a while, remind them and let them know. Give them their flowers and praise whilst they are still here.
This week I’ll be chatting with some family and friends who have been there for me and with whom I’ve not chatted to for a while.
Whilst I’ve been writing, the sun has risen here on the coast and it is -2 but still truly glorious. Have a blessed and happy Sunday.
Love Auntie Jan x
Not everything is cancelled
A different type of H.A.P.P.Y
I’ve been thinking recently about all sorts. This year 2020 trumps all my years to date by far. The contrast has been from high to low and everything in between. From COVID-19 and the wider pandemic. The death of my dear friend Chrissie aged 52 in March. The public murder of George Floyd. The Trump administration and the blatant lack of leadership. My hip operation and learning to walk again. Having to be fully dependant on others for all my needs in that moment. The 800 year occurrence of Jupiter and Saturn aligning and ushering in the dawn of Aquarius. And right now, European counties closing their borders to the U.K. literally overnight. People stranded at airports. 10 mile queues of lorries on the A20 and some with perishable goods. Lorry drivers sleeping in their cabs with no food, water or loos. Lack of communication on the U.K. side. Brexit still not settled with only 6 days to go. I wonder if we can fit any more chaos in by the end of the year … ??? 🤔🤔
I’ve been reflecting about my childhood, my teens, early adult life and now life. One thing that I’ve always been is generally happy, I think it’s in my DNA. My mother and father always seemed happy even when things were not so good. Immigrant in a foreign land in the 1960’s was not easy nor was it fun.
I am an optimist and happy to say that things always work out for me. Don’t get me wrong, there are life diversion’s and certain situations, but pretty much things works out.
The huge Ah Ha moment for me recently and maybe I’ve clocked this before and forgotten, is this. It’s the simple and small things in life that makes a difference to me and contribute the most to my happiness.
That lovely warm smile. Listening to someone I love humming and singing (even if it’s off key). Watching someone sleeping knowing they feel comfortable, warm and safe. A massive hug with no words, just an all embracing big cuddle. It’s held for just the right amount of time and says …… ‘I’ve missed you’, ‘I love you’, ‘I’m so glad to see you’, ‘Come on in, take a seat, sit down’.
It’s those tears you see in the eyes, the tears of joy as opposed to tears of grief. There is a difference. The tears that tug at the heart strings at a simple ‘Thank You’
This Christmas is not what many of us had hoped for. I/we wanted to be up close and personal with the ones we love not seeing them via zoom, being thousands of miles away. Nor across a perplexed glass not being able to touch a loved one.
We wanted full tables, putting out extra chairs so everyone has a seat at the table. We should be making up extra beds to accommodate people staying over. We expected lots of Christmas wrapping paper and lots of noise. Lots of food and big jokes as someone falls asleep and starts snoring. Granny loosing her teeth in the Christmas pudding again. Our favourite uncle saying something inappropriate in his sleep out loud in front of the TV. Instead it will be stripped right back.
With German borders closed and flights cancelled my 4 becomes 2. With London in tier 4 it could have been just me. 🙄🙄 The disappointment is real, I can’t lie and not easily squared away. I am very very thankful for my 2. And I know that 2 is good.
So to keep my vibration high and to stay merry and bright, I am choosing to take a leaf out of a couple of books. 1 by novelist Eleanor Porter 1913, title Pollyanna. 2. From the bible purported to have the word GLAD in it some 800 times. And 3. from Ester Hicks. This Christmas season and everyday going forward, I’m gonna find something to be happy about and keep my vibration high. ‘There is something about everything that we can be glad about’. In everything I’m giving him thanks. And as I learnt in Sunday School, I’ll be counting my blessing and naming them (journaling them) one by one.
I’ll be remembering some great Christmas pasts, remembering my angels no longer here on earth but around me all the time, recalling memories and saying’s that love ones would say and feeling good. I’ll also be creating extra special memories, right here, in the moment and where I am. I’ll focus on the happy thoughts and all the goodness around me and provided for me. TYJ x
Please join me in sending pure kindness and love, plus prayers and good vibes for this unique Christmas season. Many people won’t be happy and they can’t smile this Christmas it’s far too raw for them and / or it’s not in their DNA and that’s OK. For those of us who can, let’s hold everyone without judgement, wherever they are, in our thoughts and in our hearts.
It’s a different kind of Happy but Happy it can be.
H – Hope for tomorrow and a change to our current situation.
A – Appreciation for the people, family, friends, neighbours and others we have in our lives.
P – Praises for those around us rather than criticism.
P – Standing in our Peace rather than pieces.
Y – You! It’s starts with all of us one at a time.
Happy Christmas Love Aunty Jan 🎄🙏❤️
Share a smile
This morning as you rise from your slumber join me in finding the biggest smile you can muster.
Why I hear you asking ???? … To Celebrate being alive.
So many people have lost their lives over night and during this year. It is truly precious to be alive.
Today where ever you go, I have a simple request, be the peace in the storm and try to leave a little bit of joy.
Have a super blessed day and don’t forget, if someone doesn’t have a smile give them yours, it’s free.
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