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Reflections and Lessons Learnt

I wrote this blog on the 31st December 2019 as we were moving into a new decade and 2020.  Given our current situation with COVID-19 I thought I would share this again.  Here at Synclarity Coaching Practice we are encouraging everyone to step forward with enhanced confidence, more wisdom and peace.

Lessons learnt over the years:

1. I realise that with a positive attitude things always work out for me.

2. I’ve learnt that sometimes, doing nothing and simple allowing things to run its course is exactly what’s called for.

3. Not everything I thought I wanted, was what I actually wanted !! The next thing that came along has been so much better.

4. Sometimes it’s all about timing and we simply have to wait our turn. #learningtowait

5. Sometimes, the people who end up in your corner and become your supporters are some of the people you least expect.

6. I realise that some of the people who got on my nerves the most, turned out to be the  mirror I required.  I needed to see something in me.  It’s not always a comfortable place to be in but key to learning and growing.

7. No matter what, come what may, being my authentic self is paramount.

8. Rome was not built in a day, we are all a work in progress.

9. Un peeling the layers and getting to the core of the matter can be painful but very worth it.

10. Consistency and being persistent are the traits to mastery.

11. Never under estimate the power of prayer. Tap into your source often and stay tuned in.

12. Know your ‘village’ and don’t be afraid to call on them when you need them. Remeber it works both ways.  Always be super honest in everything.  We don’t have all the answers all the time, gaining a different perspectve can really help.

Wishing you continued vision and clarity.

 

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Extra Ordinary Times

We find ourselves and our world in extra ordinary times. In fact life as we know it will never be the same. It’s 2020 and we’ll never forget this time. A time when a global pandemic is upon us.

This weekend will see churches, gyms, pubs, clubs, restaurants, cinemas and theatres close. A large percentage of the nation will be isolated at home, forced to sit with family or friends or home alone. This time will be exceedingly difficult for some people. To ensure ones sanity is preserved, parents are advised to make and stick to a routine in order to garner some type of normality, otherwise chaos will prevail. Parents will also see what their children are really like during the school week. Trust me when I say, teachers will become new best friends.

Being ever the optimist in my mind I fast forward for a moment. I ask the question, How will I/You personally look back on this time? Let’s just pause for a moment 🤔🤔

For me I’ve decided to use this time wisely, look on it as a gift. We’ll be spending a lot of time in the house. I plan not to get bored nor will I veg out entirely on reality TV. I’m creating my own reality.

Do you remember school when you had to go into isolation ? I know I wasn’t the only one, please! 🙄🙄You’d probably get 100 lines … ‘I will not talk when the teacher is talking’. (Yes I was a serial offender). Or ‘I must not forget my swimming costume’! Oh how I wish now I had persevered with the breath stroke. (Note to self, must re build confidence in water and swim better).

Sorry I digress … ‘I will not talk’ … I’d use the 2 pencil trick get the lines written super fast and spend the rest of the time day dreaming about my future. What would it be like when I grew up? Who would I marry? Actually back then it was more like, will anyone marry me, I was young. I spent the time even back then with some kind of plan.

Over the next few months during isolation, we have in our control our time. (Unless you are a key worker who will be pulled in all directions. And I thank you in advance for everything you do for the nation, you guys are extra ordinary every day because you save lives). PS: I’ll be asking Boris for a bonus for your guys for being the backbone. NHS you rock. As I was saying …. We can choose to waste our time or we can be super focused now, and think about some of the things we will / can change to make for a better life.

My challenge to you, get out the pen and paper and start brain storming. ‘I WILL’. (doesn’t have to be big, start small and build). I’m super determined not to let my exercise routine go to pot. There’s no netball, and no choir. But, I have a brain and a wonderful imagination. So today I’m building a hop scotch in my hall way. A different type of exercise and my daughter can join in. And I’ll be doing some calligraphy. I’ve made a list of things I can do (if I want to), whilst in isolation and if I should get bored I’ll go to sleep, rest and recoup and allow my body to do some extra healing. I hate ironing with a passion but I will be doing a couple of bits every other day. Or I may watch a film whilst I iron.

I encourage everyone to use this time as an absolute gift because we are incredible beings and because we have this in our power. Help someone else, call someone, check in and see how someone is doing. Take the first step don’t wait for things to come to you. We are fearfully and wonderfully made and we can make this time an extra ordinary time of our lives. Be kind to others and to your self. Stay safe 😷. If you’ve enjoyed reading this please share and give a thumbs up.

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It’s International Women’s Day

 

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I am again reflecting on the super exceptional women I’ve been fortunate and blessed to have / had in my life.

To my mother resting in heaven and my guardian angel, who told me to get an education because no one can ever take it away. To keep learning no matter how old you get. To be a lady always and not to forget the power of prayer. To always remember that I am inferior to no one!

To Aunt’s, adopted aunts and generous good eggs, who showed me how to love and showered me with attention, style and elegance and told me to ‘go do you’. That message has been consistent even to this day.

To a incredible teacher Miss Brenda Able, who recognised that I had a brain and encouraged me to use it, stay curious and work hard.

To my number 1 Girls, my daughters Grace and Alicya who teach me something new nearly every day and allow me to do a job I love and adore, that of a mum.

To my niece who helps to keep me young at heart and tells me she loves me to infinity and beyond, that’s love indeed.

To my sister and sister-friend’s who check in with me always to see how I am doing, sharing their knowledge, resources and so much more.

To all my girl cousins – we are family and we are simple collectively awesome.

To my mentees and all the women I coach / have coached. You make mentor and coaching easier and fulfilling. Work colleagues turned life long friends. You make my working life one to proud of.

To all the outstanding, hard working and incredible mothers, grand-mothers, god mothers, surrogates and adopters. Know that you are all phenomenal, powerful, resourceful beyond and beyond.

The saying goes that behind every successful man there is a solid woman this we won’t deny. But it’s also true that behind some successful women is another woman showing how it can be done, living by example and being role models, and believing in each other.

Holding up each other when we are down, offering advice and providing food and tissues when required. Providing deep belly laughs when needed. Showing empathy and kindness, during menopause, illness, bereavement and all the other challenges life throws our way. We all need each other and no one is an island.

Build your team well, surround yourself with the positive, can-do individuals. Take some time out of your day today to say ‘THANKS’ to the women who help you to shine and thrive.

…. And to all the outstanding and truly remarkable men who love us, cherish us, and hold a space for us to continue to flourish and shine, we love, thank you and salute you

Happy International Women’s day! Be empowered, don’t give up, stay blessed and keep reaching and achieving your goals.

Jan Sinclair

Synclarity Coaching Practice

IWD 2020

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Skills are the new currency.

Becoming a super learner is easier than you may think. Skills are the new currency and going forward we have to keep them fresh, current and up to date.

The world of work is changing and moving at an extraordinary pace.

The IBM CEO Ginni Rometty introduced Think 40 some years ago. That is .. 40 hours of education per year. That’s only 3.3 hours per month, not as difficult as one may think. Adopting this thinking, could make a significant difference to your future.